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I am an eager sub closely watching and trying to emulate your idea of servitude. Regards to you and RESPECTS to your MASTER. how should a sub approach a Dom in recon and sites, in leather bars. Also, please talk about posture training.
slavecuntboi:
Those are big questions so i will try to answer them the best i can:
Approaching a Dom online, on Recon or elsewhere takes some preparation. i believe it is just like meeting face-to-face – the first impression counts.
Firstly, i think it’s important to make sure that your own profile really represents what you are, your experience and what you are looking for. Be clear you are a sub, not a slave, how passive e.g. 90/10, how many years experience, what BDSM activities you have done, what you are looking for, new training you are keen to have, what kind of Dom you believe you can best submit to e.g. controlling or rough or sadistic etc,
Secondly, think about what your photos are saying about you. Are they good quality, are they recent, are they showing you as a submissive, are they emphasising the BDSM activities you are good at and will enjoy giving to a Dom?
Think about what the Dom will think when looking at your profile. Make sure your limits are clear and keep your profile real. This is not fantasy, you want the Dom to be confident He is getting the real thing.
Once you have got your profile ready, then you can contact the Dom you are interested in.
Read the Dom’s profile. Then re-read it, carefully. Check all His pictures. Be sure that this is the Dom you want to submit to. Then send a polite message addressing Him correctly. Call Him Sir/SIR in the first message unless you can tell from the profile that He prefers to be addressed differently. Once you get a reply, always check how He wishes to be addressed e.g. Sir/Master/Boss/Alpha. Always use uppercase for Him and lowercase for you e.g. “i”. This shows you are respectful and submissive.
In your first message, keep it simple and to the point. It is good to ask if He might be interested in using you sometime or training you in something you know He is experienced in. Express how keen you are on His profile and how much you want to submit or be used by Him. Keep it short and sexually attractive. You can message more later once He shows interest.
After that, if He is interested, try to set up a meeting as soon as possible to get to know the Dom in a real session, rather than endless messages online.
This is just this humble slave’s opinion but i hope you find useful boy.
Approaching a Dom in a bar or club. Is different from online as you there are only clues about what the Dom is into. The big plus is that you know you are physically attracted to this Man, no pics required!
Before you approach a Dom face-to-face make sure you look like a sub. So, don’t wear an armband on the left or a Muir cap for example, as these are symbols of Dominance.
Look at what He is wearing – is He using hanky code colours on an arm-band for example – Grey: Bondage, Black: SM, Blue: Fucking, Yellow: Watersports, etc. Is he carrying a flogger, paddle, cane, rope, etc. This gives you some idea of His main interests, so make sure that they fit with yours before approaching Him.
Then simply wait for a moment when He is not busy and approach Him. Drop to your knees, hands behind your back, body and head straight-up. Greet Him respectfully, complement Him and introduce yourself. For example, “Hello Sir, permission to speak to You Sir?… i think You look hot in Your leather Sir…i am a bondage/pain/piss sub, i wondered if You would like to use me sometime, Sir?” When you look up, use your eyes, but try to keep your head slightly bowed. Some Doms like direct eye contact, some don’t allow it unless they give permission. But you will normally find out once a session starts.
I hope that answers your basic question and helps you get started.
Good luck with your submission, boy, and thank you for asking an interesting question!
slave cuntboi
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