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A “red” signal means we need to stop NOW.
“Yellow” means that we’re getting close to a limit and can we please not go any harder/further right now.
“Green” means “I am loving what we are doing right now, please do MORE!”
And we PRAISE each other when we safeword and tell each other how pleased and proud we are that our partners are looking out for their and our safety.
We also do regular safeword drills. Once every month or two, one of us will randomly safeword just to check that we do it right. When it’s a drill, we confirm that it’s a drill, we double-check that we are all okay to carry on and we praise each other. Then we continue playing.
Just to be clear again - it is OKAY to safeword. It is OKAY for dominant partners to safeword. It is OKAY for dominant partners to stop if they feel uncomfortable. It is OKAY for dominant partners to stop if they need to.
Both dominants and submissives deserve to feel safe, comfortable and get care and reassurance when they need it.
See also:
No Safeword is Not an Excuse
Let’s Talk About Safewords - As a dominants, we’d rather you use your safeword than be hurt. Don’t feel like you’re going to disappoint us. You will only disappoint us if you fail to safeword when you should’ve and end up getting hurt.
Let’s Talk About Safewords - As a dominants, we’d rather you use your safeword than be hurt. Don’t feel like you’re going to disappoint us. You will only disappoint us if you fail to safeword when you should’ve and end up getting hurt.
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