Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Florentine Flogging, Lesson One with Travis: Video Tutorial

 Previous publicity for this event.



From Papa Tony:  Travis is an incredible teacher, and we all made progress. He taught basic Florentine Flogging, which means using two floggers simultaneously.

I don't know about anybody else, but I am NEVER going to depend so much upon one hand, ever again!  It's really nice using two.

Thanks to our gracious host slave keith, it was a warm, safe and welcoming space. As you can see in the photo above, the men were intimate, sociable and playful!

Even better, we get to practice our new skills at tonight's Hands-On Demo… RSVP to SignMeUpForEvent @ gmail.com to get the location.

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Florentine Flogging Lessons with Travis, Part One

 Calling All Tops!


Tuesday, August 26, 6PM - RSVP to SignMeUpForEvent @gmail.com for location.

See the bottom of this message for prerequisites.


Our own Travis will be teaching FMSD Tops how to do Florentine Flogging (meaning, using two identical floggers simultaneously).  

Travis will be teaching those of us who are ALREADY FAMILIAR WITH BASIC FLOGGING, since this is an advanced technique.  If you aren't yet familiar, you WILL be used as a flogging bottom!

If you're not prepared with your flogging skills, don't worry - Everybody will get their chance, and we won't leave anybody behind in the months to come. We want the maximum number of cocky, empowered and handsome Tops swaggering into a party with floggers dangling from their belts!

This same technique also works with whips.



PREREQUISITES BEFORE ATTENDING:

- Be comfortable with throwing a flogger one-handed. 

- If you do not possess two identical floggers (I get mine from FlogMeBaby.com, and I suggest the Mr. Thuddy for $45 each)…


… take two identical hand-towels (nothing bigger), and tightly roll them thusly, and secure them with rubber bands:


Or, just bring matched hand-towels to the event, and we will supply rubber bands.  These items will be used to learn the Florentine form of movement during this workshop.

Audio and Pictures from SUBMISSIVES Discussion

 Click here for the audio…


“Sub it!” (A look into pups, boys, cubs, and being submissive), with the panel comprised of pup nikita, Donnie, boy richard, Stewart and slave bob.

Photos by our brother Scott Smith







Thursday, August 14, 2014

Papa Tony's Verbal History

 


Part 1: Coming Out As A Young Gay Leatherman in the 1970's. Giving the context for what follows.


That's me on the left, with my leather mentor David Dollahite.

Part 2: When Things Went Very Bad:  Part One (telling the stories, and counting the cost for myself, and for our Tribe), and Part Two (feedback, and fun stories). 



From Papa Tony:

I am the founder of FMSD, and ran it for years. Now that I have stepped down as a community leader, I am embracing the role of Elder in our Tribe.  This means that my duties have changed.  I now:

Celebrate when men in our community have reached their next level of achievement

Mentor others when requested, and

- Preserve our cultural history. As part of this effort, I am starting a series of talks where I share what has happened in the realm of gay leathermen in the last 38 years, based upon my own experience.

These talks are meant to be real, explanatory and true, even if they are sometimes uncomfortable to hear.  As I shift into my older years, I feel a strong need to tell my story, rather than take it to my grave, like so many men in our Tribe are doing.






Photos from Scott Smith





Photos from Felix Moo

From Felix: I loved your talk tonight. It was very interesting plus you're a good speaker with a sexy voice :)












Wednesday, July 23, 2014

2014 San Diego Pride for Kinksters, From A Historical Standpoint

Short version:

I'm inspired by everybody who showed up, and there were a LOT of fine folks who showed up!

It was NOT this way in the old days.



Long version:

I did some analysis of Scott's excellent photos.  
Over 100 folks showed up as proud kinksters, 
joined the Leather Contingent for 2014, and marched 
in the broad daylight, for all of the world to see. 
When we joined up with the turbo-charged, 
dynamic volunteers at the Leather Realm, 
the level of authentic, proud representation 
of our community at its very best hit 
an emotional peak, that lasted all weekend.

The world noticed.



My first San Diego Pride March, in 1976.  
I was twenty years old, and I marched 
with the San Diego Gay Youth Group.  
That's Jeff Brosby in the middle, who ran the group.

My second San Diego Pride, in 1977.  
That's me in the middle of the banner.
We are in Hillcrest, approaching the corner of Robinson and Sixth.
The Advocate Experience was a gay-specific version of est.



1978 Pride March.  You can guess why I took this picture.
The white banner says "LESBIANS POLITICAL…" something else.


San Diego Pride 1979.  
I was joining up with the gay car club 
"Great Autos of Yesteryear" (G.A.Y.)
to drive dignitaries in the parade.


1999, driving the current Emperor and leatherman, Czar Dean.

I celebrated my 40th San Diego Pride in 2016.  I've either been IN the parade, or watched it, every single year.  I could go on and on about the overall aspects of Pride in general - the festival, the parade (it used to be an angry march, with shouted slogans) and so forth, but I choose instead to speak about the Leather aspect of the annual celebration.

That's me, driving my '61 Imperial convertible, Pride 2000, 
carrying Leather And Sister Hood ("LASH").

In the earliest days of San Diego Pride, there was no representation of leather, whatsoever. As I recall it, folks didn't show up in leather in the parade until around 1984. We were always in the back-most portion of the parade, and we were clearly not welcome.

California Cyclemen Motorcycle Club (CCMC) in front.
Rampart Leather Tribal Dance Party and RHSD floats, Pride 2000. 
I hosted Rampart for two years, and Bill Freyer was head of Red Hankies San Diego for 17 years!
Other than LASH, there WERE no other leather folk in the parade this year.

There was a lot of angry shaming of drag queens and leather folks, because we "made everybody else look bad".  Here we were as a gay community, trying to gain acceptance, and the TV cameras would only focus upon the freaks. Folks called to chastise TV stations for stereotyping us with their coverage, and then would focus their anger upon those of us who didn't, or couldn't fit in.  We were manifestly unwelcome.

SD Leather Contingent 1999.  The whole thing.

Starting around 1998, there was a lot of resistance in the kinkster crowd to the idea of even being part of the Pride Parade. If we were going to keep being made to feel unwelcome, then we would create our own, entirely separate thing. The entire reason for the invention of Leather Pride was to show defiance to the larger community: to lay claim to the many things that we felt that we could be proud of… our volunteers, vendors, artists and artisans, and community leaders.


If nobody else would appreciate us, then we would celebrate our own Pride.  After all, "Pride" is the exact opposite of "Shame". 

That's Wendy Sue on the far left. Pride 2000.

Even if we had the goal of being in the Pride Parade, we could never get it together. There would be separate, hostile factions, who would be in separate parts of the parade. That went on for years. It was very discouraging. I give great credit to Wendy Sue for sticking with the dream of bringing everybody together, no matter how resistant they were.





That brings us to the present. 

Parade Contingent, 2012.  That's Wish Linda laying down in the front.  
She has been the glue that has bound us together in the parade… 

The younger generations of kinksters don't have the heavy burden of AIDS survival holding them back. This is a good thing. The bad years are in the past, where they belong. Now, it's time to celebrate! 

Scott Smith's photos tell the story, very eloquently. What you're seeing in 2014 is not just sheer quantity, it is our quality that speaks for us... We are joyful, affectionate, diverse, unified and celebratory. We have nothing to be ashamed of, and we can't imagine why we would.

San Diego Pride Leather Contingent, 2011

San Diego Leather Pride has had many years of success. It has accomplished much to build our community's pride and self-reliance. However, the world has changed around us. I credit the Internet with having exposed more and more people to the fact that kinky folks are everywhere. Oddly enough, we have become more and more normalized.

San Diego Pride Leather Contingent, 2013

At least here in San Diego, leatherfolk have become TRENDY. I'm not kidding. If I am in gear, and I show up in public, I am an intensely observed and admired figure for fashionable young people. Instead of hiding in darkness, and only showing up in public once a year for the parade, more and more people are sharing their truth, expressing what is in their hearts, and living in the light.

San Diego Pride Leather Contingent, 2013

Of all the cities that I am aware of, San Diego's Leather Tribe shows incredible authenticity, more and more often. As with any family, we have our disagreements periodically, but when it is important for us to draw together, we always do.

A fraction of the San Diego Pride Leather Contingent, 2014

Speaking as an older man, I've seen some seriously wild changes happen in our community, and all within my lifetime. I NEVER would have expected that we would show up so unified, numerous and bountifully joyous as kinksters.  The older leathermen who were my mentors in the 1970's would have blown a gasket if they had looked at 2014 in a crystal ball… They had lived in constant fear of imprisonment for being sexual deviants, and they thought that I took too many foolish risks by being so open and unashamed. I did it, because I wanted the world to CHANGE.

It did, and we can all continue to take credit.

Many thanks to everyone who gave their best toward Pride this year, whether it was in the parade, or working hard at the Leather Realm.  You have shattered old preconceptions, and paved the way for even better days for the younger folks who follow us.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

The Flog Swarm, Explained

 Photos by the ever-superb Scott SmithFrom Papa Tony:



On Saturday, May 31, FetishMenSanDiego will be hosting our next Flog Swarm at 12 noon. Details here.

Clearly, this is something new, and difficult to understand, because it's not even remotely like typical day-to-day life.



So, I will explain it:

The men of FMSD have found a way to establish deep trust with each other at EVERY event, so that everybody goes home happy. We post pictures, videos, articles and audio of our events, which are clearly well-attended and joyful.

We also host events that are NOT posted online.  These small gatherings are more intimate, ecstatic, playful and Tribal.


The Flog Swarm is a BIG gathering (72 folks so far, with ten days to go), but it's the same theme.  It's a way for somewhat-overwhelmed, modern human beings to experience the endorphins of communal joy and relaxed intimacy, in an absolutely safe and welcoming space. We can leave the problems of the world outside for a while.

Think about that.


How can we claim this?  Because we make this sort of promise, and deliver on our promises, ALL OF THE TIME.  When a team is this tight, this trusting, and this interconnected, we can flow from one moment to another, and guide the crowd from one delightful experience, and into the next. This is how an affectionate team works together, when it's not about dominance games.

I could go on and on, but the point has been made.

If you miss this event, you WILL be hearing about it for years to come. The men and women who will be a part of this will have plenty to say, and all of it will be good.