Monday, September 10, 2018

Creating Sacred Male Space: Community Leadership

Encouraging and educating folks who want to be effective community leaders.


These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories. There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.


Opinions

Sharing some ideas that might work well for others.

These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.





A Brutally Frank Message to My Fellow Older Gay Leathermen - In praise of handing everything away to our younger leaders

Younger Doms are Valid, Too - We are all on the same path

This is Why You Shouldn't Kink-Shame - That Which You Resist, Persists.

Bottom-Shaming Hurts Everybody - It even harms the Sirs that might perpetuate it, without being conscious of the damaging 'internal-loathing' effect

High Protocol Relationships - Not sure where fact or fiction ends, here

Approval-Based Doms - Don't believe the porn hype

The Joys of Being a Pimp Daddy For A Slutty Sub - Slutty subs have needs, too!

The Value of Switches - Life is not just two boxes, marked 'black" and 'white.'

Boring, Bored, and Border Collies - I strive to be a respectful, obedient, pleasing submissive but I get a little bored.

Why 'Fifty Shades' is SO BAD - It's a trash heap, and we all pile on.


Real Life Is Not A Porn Video. Adjust Your Expectations Accordingly - Life is NOT like what you see on the screen

Sirs Need Brothers Too - It seems obvious to me

Dear Submissives - You're not going to spend your life in a basement serving somebody. It's a fucking fantasy.

Why I Am A Fan Of Pain - A great primer on the fun of pain play

How To Apologize - A grownup man lets go of his ego and admits guilt.

Why Am I A 'Daddy'? - I didn't write it, but it really resonates with people.

Make or Break - 'Reprogramming' the submissive with healthy, life-affirming memes

'Flexibility' Versus 'Rigidity' - Two extreme interpretations of what kink really is

If We Wait For The Perfect Submissive, We Will Wait Forever - What if the things that make you inappropriate, broken and JUST PLAIN FUCKED UP are actually your superpowers, and always were?

Won't Somebody Please Think Of The Poor Dominants? - Being burdened with the expectations of others

How-To: Hard Skills

Covering technical skills that will last you a lifetime 

These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.



Flogging For Beginners (On Both Ends Of The Flogger): Video Instruction - Watched by over a quarter-million folks, worldwide, in FIVE places on the Web


The Tommy Tomcat: Video Instructions - An advanced toy for Tops who are ready for their next level up.

Toybag Tour, Thud vs. Sting: Floggers and Whips and Such - Learn the Basics

Restraints For Lazy Bastards - Fast and effective

Flogging With Intention - Horizontal Style

The 'Trophy' Boot Print - How to Reward a VERY good submissive

How to Mummify Someone - Nice how-to text

Kinky Playing Without Toys - Seduction techniques, which will drive a sub to ecstasy

Public Scene: Barracks Bar in Palm Springs - Watch me in an actual scene with a stranger.  I calibrate, check in, and use dozens of play-styles

Public Scene at the Faultline in LA, with Videos - I was showing off for the crowd, but I believe that these videos are also instructive.

Full-Body Orgasms, In Less Than Sixty Seconds.  Using Nothing But Your Voice - Long-term training for subs

Training and Protocols for a New Submissive - This is my personal style, but it has WORKED, for decades

Leaving Marks on the Ass That Can't Get Enough - Every kind of impact play on buttocks

Florentine Flogging, for Visual Learners, Plus Flame Whips and Poi! - How to become a sophisticated Flogging Top

Reviews

How to save money, time and wasted energy when shopping.

These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.



Video Review of the 'Thumper' Flogger; with Demos - I review kinky toys periodically. Mostly, those that pertain to Impact Play, because that is my specialty.

PTSM Singletail Whip, with Instructional Video - Looking to get into singletail whipping?  Here is an excellent start.

Portable St. Andrew's Cross - If you can't have a full-time dungeon, here is a good alternative

9x6 Lube Review - It comes off pretty quickly and cleanly with soap and cold water.

My Custom-Ordered Kinky Boots - I decided that I had waited for too many years to get what I considered to be my Ultimate Fantasy Boot

Valuable Links & Lists

Providing access to many more resources

These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.



Audio from Men's Discussions - VERY popular posting.  Listened to by hundreds of thousands, worldwide.  I also talk about the value of these recordings here.

What Books Do You Recommend? - These are what I assign to my mentees and proteges., followed by…



My Education Plan - Alex's classic list

BDSM Links And Resources - I didn't create this list, but folks really like it

True Master, True slave - A lovely breath of fresh air

30 Kinky Terms Every Gay Man Should Know - I am astonished to find something this good on the Advocate Web site.

35 DOs and DON'Ts of a Gay Leather Bar - I was doing research for another article, and happened upon a VERY good article that covers the topic very well.


Ten Things A Dom Expects A sub To Know Without Being Told - This is the path to success.  I promise.

Updated Library For Kinksters - Quite a lot of useful information.

A Shout-Out For Officer Wes - He has a massive, excellent educational website.

Getting Into New Kink Practices - Bondage and Impact Play

Styles of Domination - Find yourself on the list!


Tumblr Doms Terrify Me - A retort to the usual Tumblr Fantasy crapola.

New Traditions & Mentoring

Going deep into mentoring as a goal and a noble activity.

These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.



Creating a Celebration... Earning a Master's Cap - Building new traditions from the ashes of the old days

Why I Train Tops On A Constant Basis - My motivations as a long-time Mentor

THIS* Is Why I Mentor Doms - Blessing a fine protégé

The Path Toward Wisdom - If you are doing it right, it is an upward path

A Punishment - A successful scene, done well.

The Best Way to Help a Mentor - Interact - a lot!

How To Be An Elder, And Set The Tone For Your Community - I wish every older gay man would take this to heart. Creating new traditions, to replace the ones that were lost

How to Attract and RETAIN Younger Men in the Gay Leathermen's Community - It worked in San Diego

The Culture Of Mentoring Between The Generations - Passing it along, as a definite plan

Master's Cap and Whip Presentation - It's a blurry video, but it's a nice bit of history

Awarding A Master's Cap (AKA Cover) - Very long article, covering all aspects

Supporting New Kinky Talent - Taking on protégés as a Mentor

Pictures and Video from the Ritual Fire Event - Tribal pleasure and fiery fun!

Leather Protocols And History - My brother Mentor's history lesson

Creating Sacred Male Space: Community Leadership

Encouraging and educating folks who want to be effective community leaders.


These are articles that I consider to be of value, based upon the responses that I have received.

You can find the Master Index for every category here.

This page is only one of many categories.  There are HUNDREDS of articles, and each list continues to grow longer and longer.

I hope that you find these articles to be of value in your life.



Part 1: Introduction
Part 2: Defining The Community That We Want
Part 3: Welcoming the Stranger
Part 4: The Golden Core
Part 5: Dealing With Negativity
Part 6: Effective Leadership