Sleepsack Bondage Safety Tips

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“I’ve never been in leather like that. Or any now that I think about it. It must become incredibly hot and sweaty in there. It may be a dumb question but does he hydrate first?”
David Gregory:

Actually that’s a very serious, responsible question, not in the least bit dumb.

Much of this is already covered in one of my earlier post’s, on “Long Term and, and Sleepsack Bondage.”

If we are not careful with Sleepsack and other forms of Bondage involving, total body coverage. Dehydration and Heat Exhaustion are very real potential problems, that can become extremely dangerous.

I do everything I can to reduce the heat in my playroom. If a bottom is in a Tight, heavy leather Sleepsack, without any other layer’s, and is exerting himself. I find the ideal room temperature needs to be close to, 10/12c, or 50/53.6f. This seems low to those used to centrally heated homes. But if as a Top you’re working hard, wearing as much leather as the Bottom you’ll soon realise his predicament.

Try to imagine trying to do a prolonged, heavy gym workout, in full biker gear; One Piece Leather Suit, Helmet, Glove’s, Boot’s? The more unfit one is, the heavier you are, tied to a mattress, in multiple layers the build up of heat quickly becomes intolerable. Heat wrecks more scenes, than roasting a pig at a Bar Mitzvah.

If you don’t have a climate controlled play space, invest in a large strong electric fan. It’s the quickest way to cool someone in a Sleepsack.

If someone is seriously overheating, act immediately, but don’t panic. Roll them onto their side and clear the airway first. If tied on their back, to a bed and they vomit through overheating, or for any other reason. What happens? THEY CHOKE! Once you’re in control of the situation, calmly get then out of the scene, to cool, and rehydrate. Perversely they may need a blanket over them. Don’t tie someone down on a foam mattress, it’s the quickest way to build-up heat underneath them. Keep them hydrated. And look-out for the tell tale signs of overheating and dehydration:

• Dizziness
• Confusion
• Hyperventilating
• Fainting
• Fatigue
• Headache
• Muscle cramps
• Nausea
• Pale skin
• Profuse sweating
• Sunken, dark eyes, from dehydration…

Any of these signs should be taken seriously, and acted on immediately.

Note: I often use an open contoured frame (better for the back), with a thin padded base, as in photo above. If I’ve someone tied down, it provides greater all round opportunities, for ventilation and cooling. Far better than on a bed.

Relatively speaking, this appears to be quite an innocent scene. But it is in fact - TOTALLY IRRESPONSIBLE and EXTREMELY DANGEROUS:

The lumbar region of this guy's spine, L1 - L5, is totally unsupported. In this position the easiest thing to do would be to BREAK HIS BACK!

It’s quite clear the bottom has been on the receiving end of a some sort of; flogger, paddle, or a very hard hand. Any jerking, or sudden movement caused by the dumb jerk putting the guy in his care, in this position, runs the very real risk of a herniated discs, or worse.

If you really want to risk spending the rest of your life in a wheelchair. Totally irresponsible Tops, with no idea, or care for the risks they take with the safety of their bottoms are out there. With images like this being posted, levels of incompetence are increasing, along with the risk of very real and serious injury to bottom’s.

Any Top who fucks-up in this situation, or any scene, needs to wise-up, and act responsibly. It’s not the Top who is at risk of suffering for the rest of his life, as a direct result of acting out, or promoting this sort of stupidity.

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seabondagesadist:

A new and exciting sub that I quickly discovered was a true bondage fiend.  He had never been bound by someone else before this day!  I love making a connection with someone who has the need and desire for bondage.  We broke the ice with a chat and then we went down to the playroom to see what kind of fun he was wanting to get up to.  

I challenged him to tell me about the gear in my collection that caught his attention.  He was very interested in the sleepsack, a hood and a gag.  Me being me, and getting out the sleepsack, I challenged him more with my own brand of sleepsack captivity.  Checking in on him throughout the process of lacing him in, strapping it tight, then strapping it down and last but not least chaining him to the bed in his leather prison. 

Roughly two hours of heavy bondage and three orgasms.  I had thought it was only two… but when I released him he told me the first one happened when I zipped the sleepsack up…  The definition of bondage FIEND to me!  So much fun!!!

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What Does A Typical Edging Session With You Look Like?

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Well I would hope that nothing is ever typical. I want each session to be filled with new experiences and evolving dynamics. But that being said, I will share how I would generally approach a “garden variety” edging session.

I would normally restrain a boy.

It is certainly possible to edge a boy when he lays flat on the couch or the floor. However, what is the fun in that? It helps to heighten a boy’s experience when you take away his mobility, when you put his body entirely in your care. I lean towards tying a boy to the bed, spread-eagle. That way, I have as much access as I would like. If he likes to squirm or may test the bonds, I may add the leather mitts to keep his hands to place.

Obviously get him naked before you restrain him. It is a pain in the ass to deal with clothes once you’ve locked him down.

He will be blindfolded and perhaps gagged.

Always blindfold a boy. It augments his other senses. It makes me keen on the sensations you are applying to his body. If he is overly chatty, loud, or you just want him to be quiet, a gag is a good addition. A ball gag will do or even just stuffing his mouth with his own underwear. However, if I want a boy to focus on the fact that his mouth is made for sucking cock, I will use the pecker gag.

Pro-Tip: Have your gear already set out next to the bed on the floor covered by a towel (so he doesn’t see). This will help you be ready to go once he is restrained. And you don’t waste time.

I start by just touching his body

Remember that edging is about teasing a boy. You want to stimulate him. You are in no rush. You want excite him. Running my fingers all over him. Getting his boy dick nice and hard.

Remember that verbal communication is just as important as touching.

You need to talk to a boy throughout the entire session. You want to get inside his head. You want him whimpering. Tell him what is about to happen to him. Tell him you are going to help him learn to be a good boy. Tell him that his is your fucking little play thing.

Slow Strokes and Listen to his Body

Don’t go quickly. Use lots of lube. And stroke his boy dick. All while talking to him. One of my favorite activities is to make a boy countdown the number of strokes, especially if he has to mumble through the gag.

Listening to his body is so important. The purpose of edging is to bring him closer and closer without letting him cum. One of my frustrations with edging porn is that the guys often just jerk and pause, jerk and pause. Then he just falls over the edge and cums. No. Go slowly. Listen to the body. Teach him to hold it and breathe.

You need to be the person that decides when he releases. (And he should ask for permission).

Play with his hole

Almost always during an edging session, I will play with a boy’s hole. I think it adds to his stimulation. At a minimum, I will finger him. I will usually set out some toys to use on him a well. Or keep him plugged while I stroke him.  Or an aneros which I will use in conjunctions with vibrating toys.

Toys on his boy dick

I love my magic wand. It is one of my favorite toys. It is so helpful in an edging session. And when I want to see him struggle, I will put the device right on the head of his boy dick. He will certainly tug on those restraints. You can also use a vibrator or any other stimulating toys.

Plan for a little more

I do like to incorporate other elements into the edging session. Just to keep a boy on his toes. It makes it more fun for the both of you. Add the nipple clamps. Use some clothes pins. Drag the riding crop across his body. Use ice cubes on him. A little icy-hot on his boy balls. Again remember the point of an edging session is to stimulate him.

Take a Break

Sometimes when a boy does get really close, I put a cool towel on his boy dick and leave the room for ten minutes. The come back and start all over again. This can be really good for driving a boy wild and making the session last. Note however, some boys once they go soft during an edging they may not get hard again. You just need to recognize this risk. Edging can cause a sensory overload.

Cumming with your permission

When you do get to the point that you want him to cum, make sure you have him ask and you grant it. Then stroke firmly until he explodes. Do NOT stop stroking when he starts cumming. As a Dom, you need to work out every drop. It will be sensitive. He might trash around, but you need to empty those boy balls.

Clean Up His Mess

Finally, you do not untie him until he has cleaned up his mess. Take out the gag and feed it to him. Make sure he swallows every drop.

Pro-Tip: His mouth may be dry from being gagged. It might be difficult for him to swallow. Have a glass of water near by for the boy.

There you have it. That is typically what would happen in a edging session with me. I hope it is helpful to you Doms.

To you boys reading this right now, I know you are drooling.

Intensity Rating

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A while ago, Master had me fill a sheet to rate the intensity/scare level of each torture method that we had tried since i submit. After several years of training, it just got updated. Not all of them get a lower rating now though, some methods i got conditioned by Master just to fear them more, so they can be used to punish me more effectively.

intensity/scare ratings (1-10, 10 the most extreme):

Whip/Caning/Paddling

Hard flogging on back, while tied or untied 4

Single tail on back, while tied or untied, while it counts, in hundreds 6

Whip on inner thigh 8

small whip on cock, balls and nipples 5

Caning on butt and thigh, in hundreds, while strapped down immobile 6

Caning on sole 9

paddle hand repeatedly 5


TT = Tit Torture    

pull with fingers or toys 3

alligator clamps, on and off multiple times 5

clamps with chain on nipples, chain in mouth 4

cloth pins on nipples 1

hot wax on nipples to form a shell 4

rubbed for a long time until hurting with pleasure 2


CBT = Cock and Ball Torture

tied up with ropes 1

wear steel ball weight for up to two days 3

hot wax to cover the whole cock and balls 4

pinwheel on cockhead back and forth 3

boot kicks from behind 5

boot step on cock on the floor when kneeling 2

balls locked up with a humbler from behind 2


Electro

violet wand on whole body and sensitive parts 5

cock and balls wired to estim to the level of scream with pain 5

microphone to transform scream to shocks 4

electro pads on soles to induce painful involuntary contractions 1

stun gun to shock butt and soles repeatedly 8

stun baton to shock cock and balls repeatedly until cum 7

stun baton to shock all over body while fully strapped down 7

zapper on feet back and forth 10

zapper on nipples for up to 10 seconds 7


Bondage

full bondage in leather bag with hood, gag and steel head case 6

stretched in spread eagle on bondage table 3

hang on wrists and legs forced apart 1


Others

100 cloth pins on all sensitive parts 3

shoot the butt with air gun to make bruises 6

repeatedly suffocate while sucking balls 6

force to cum twice in a row 2

vibrator on cock without allowing to cum 1

cuffed and locked in dark cold chamber 3

force to stay still in humble positions 6

needle pad to press on soles before bastinado 2

wear chastity device over night 1

suffocate with plastic bag 7


Mental

water sports 1

Master angry 10

dog training 5

Submissive's Safety

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rbbrbkrbn: My default role is sub but because I was subjected to non-consensual activity, rape is the legal definition, although at that time male rape was not recognised as a crime. I was badly hurt mentally and less so physically by a top I thought of as a friend and mentor. Someone I trusted fully, I found it, and still do find it very hard to trust people to top me.

As a consequence I learned to top and and was taught by people who were safety conscious, and who thought of little details most would not even think about.

Use rope rather than chain because it is easier to cut than chain and you can put a quick release “slip” in the knot so when you pull the end the knot comes undone.

If you have someone standing release the feet first and get them to march on the spot. This returns pooled blood from the legs back into the general circulation. We have all seen guardsmen or soldiers on parade fainting because of this.

I always meet first time in public. When playing even if I have played with that person before I arrange with a friend that I will call them them when I leave safely. If I don’t call by the designated time they will call my phone and if answered ask to speak to me. I have a code phrase something like “everything is great” which means get me out of here. If no reply is received then then the police are called.

As a corollary i never pick up and take someone home from a club or bar. Friends were killed by Colin Ireland.

Another matter I find worrying is the number of subs wanting to be knocked out in breath play games. And worse “tops” who will do it. Once a person becomes unconscious things can go horribly wrong terribly fast as anyone with a modicum of medical knowledge will know…

The use of ethyl chloride, often marketed as maximum impact, and used instead of, or with poppers is extremely dangerous. It was banned in hospitals as an anaesthetic because on the unacceptably high death rate. Patients were dying and could not be resuscitated even with the resources of a hospital operating theatre. One breath can kill an otherwise healthy individual.

One of the things I specialise in when I top is breath control play. I was a senior diving instructor in BSAC and I was also an HSE first aid for divers instructor. I know how to resuscitate someone. I have done it for real three times. It is bloody hard work on your own. Now imagine you have someone in layers in a sleepsack - when every second counts.

Incidentally I would never leave someone on their back alone in a sleepsack. I had a scare. I was sleeping beside the guy and when he stopped breathing I had him out - yes he got tipped out of the sleepsack which was on the bed onto the floor and I had him breathing again in under a minute. He had sleep apnoea and didn’t know. To ensure he was OK I insisted on taking him to the accident and emergency department at the local hospital.

When I top I take my duty of care to a sub very seriously and will always seek expert medical help if I believe there is a problem EVEN IF THE SUB SAYS HE IS OK.

Bondage For Lazy Doms

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hadriantemple: Shibari is gorgeous to look at, but I find that it’s just too time-consuming for me. I like my bondage quick and dirty, so I have time to get to the fun stuff before the sub cramps up and I need to let him out.

Papa Tony:



I agree - Complex rope work is GREAT when you are doing a demo in a bar (so very decorative and impressive!). For myself, I am a lazy bastard. I want to get right TO it.

In the photo above this, you will see leather wrist-cuffs, joined by rope looped back and forth between them. I twist the rope to adjust the length, depending on the size of the sub.

The leg-spreader was rather expensive. I would have been just as happy with a cheaper knock-off like this one, found on Amazon. As a tradition, once I have locked the ankles into position, I throw the keys onto the floor a good fifteen feet away.

Total set-up time? Maybe two minutes. Onward to the FUN!