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Hardest thing I’ve ever done is "mirror work" ….
But one of the most necessary.
Fuck, I’d rather light myself on fire!
The first set of instruction is a comprehensive written list of all the parts of my body I currently “hate” with details about when it’s the worst (position) or intrudes into my focus. And then I have to give Him the list. He spends days with the list. Asks more questions.
Then comes the instructions for training day.
Forced to look, listen, experience…
To endure grabbing, pulling, squeezing parts that life, aging, and gravity have been less than kind to. To see all those parts from every angle. To not be allowed to look away, not a moment’s respite.
Once the sobbing subsides a bit, He describes what He sees, showing me the curves He focuses on, the sensations He feels.
He takes His pleasure in every form imaginable while I watch. The mirrors not only show me me, but His pleasure, His undeniable lust, even while grabbing and enjoying the parts I hate. (I’m an evidence based kinda girl.)
There is an overriding theme, a mantra . .
“I am perfect for Him.” That I am never more beautiful than when I’m on my knees or in the moment I have surrendered my being to His to receive the gift of erotic pain or am put to use pleasing Him.
A quote from Him: “Little one I refuse to fucking to compete. I will have you, you will give me your complete surrender and focus. I will not abide a competitor. And right now, I’m competing with your inner critic. We will do this as many times as it takes. I will break this distraction and have your complete focus. I will not accept competition.”
And in the end, I am broken and he remakes me. Remakes me to come before Him truly “naked and unashamed.”
@littlephoenixkitten
The body like a trail queen has been through multiple pregnancies and cesareans, breast feeding, a partial nephrectomy, and over 50 years of gravity.
But don’t let size make you think I don’t suffer with a host of body image issues.
My theory of the case is that 98%percent of us never did and never will look like Tumblr models. And that deciding on which of us suffers more because of it is pointless.
As far as I can tell, we all suffer to one degree or another.
As for me, aging and gravity are my nemesis. Ever seen a 53 year old mother naked on all fours? Let’s just say things slide and hang in ways that make me cringe.
But the point of His body image training is that it’s HIS opinion that matters. And that He was going to see to it that I walked through whatever hell to see me through his eyes and shed some of the burden of my inner critic.
I always have my safeword. I trusted Him. It was a Hell, but it helped immensely. And, I’m vigilant about confronting my inner critic before it gets that bad ever again. He won’t have it any other way.
But that’s me. It doesn’t have to be a good plan for anybody else.
Your "no" is yours to use whenever, wherever, with whoever, and for any reason.
Remember, married to Him for over 30 years. He truly knows me. And I trust Him to lead.
(((HUGS)))
hedonist-woman:
For anyone having body issues. This goes for men as well.
bigbadwolf-ish:
I love this so much… I mean the concept. That is true Dom shit. And bravo to all the subs who tough it out.
@hedonist-woman:
Absolutely men have body issues. Probably the most common type is that of penis size, and let me tell you… That one can be quite the mind fuck, regardless of what you might say about its importance. The male Tumblr models with their 9 inch schlongs project just as unrealistic an image as the little porn princesses. It can make the average man feel less than average for sure.
Papa Tony:
Every one of my male submissives have had to be "talked off of the ledge" when it comes to his self-image. I have acted as the "mirror" for many of my subs, directly addressing each submissive's fears and considerations. I do this by being entirely (but lovingly) forthcoming.
I ALWAYS conclude by saying the words "I choose you THIS way, and would not change a thing about you." And, in every case, I mean it.
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