itsshinycollectordestinyworld:
I feel a rant coming on. A good old jump-on-my-soapbox-and-fukken-let-rip-about-some-things rant. You know how this works - skedaddle or read on. Biscuits are required. Play nice.
TW: there may or may not be dragons, go gently.
In no particular order of importance, here are the most pressing sources of dumbfuckery in this week’s “What the actual fuck did I just read on Tumblr?”
1) all dominants are >insert stereotype<
They aren’t. Whatever stereotype you’ve set your stars on is not it.
Dominants are not suits. Not sadists. Not natural born leaders. Not sex maniacs. Not misogynists. Not sexist twatwombles. Not alphas. Not betters. Not superior. Not men. Not good with their hands. Not tall strong and handsome. Not domineering oafs. Not managers. Not CEOs. Not flawless. Not infinite sources of knowledge and wisdom. Not of a certain age. Not financially secure. Not broken.
I mean, one can be any or all of those things but that’s not what makes one a dominant…
Dominants are just humans. Just ordinary amazing as fuck folks doing that thing they do so well. In a gazillion different and unique ways. From a bajillion different and unique perspectives. Human beings.
All dominants are human beings.
2) punishment is an excuse to abuse your sub
It’s not. It’s really fukken not.
I wish, and I mean really really wish that I could just *phoomph* like a genie into the same space as the fuckwit dumbass who is abusing their partner in the most fuck awful ways under the pretext of punishment just because they wear a dom sticker on their stupid head. I mean, it’s probably best that I can’t because I would rip their stupid little heads right off their stupid little bodies and feed what’s left to the Godfather’s Ladies. But a girl can wish. And who knows, maybe that level of magick will one day become available to me.
Until then “check yourself before you wreck yourself” twatwombles.
Punishment in the context of a power exchange relationship is many things. Atonement. Accountability. Balance. A learning curve. Clearing the slate. Amongst other things.
It is subjective but always has a specific objective.
It is about responsibility. Care. Love. Liberation.
Being punished should be unpleasant. It should feel uncomfortable. But it must never damage or cause harm.
Punishment is an opportunity to show your sub how much you care.
If it is a pre-negotiated, agreed-to part of your dynamic.
If there is full, enthusiastic, ongoing consent.
3) submissives suffering under the misconception that they have no voice
You do. You have a fukken voice. Use it. Loudly and a lot.
Do not allow dumbass twatwombles to silence you. You do not relinquish the right or ability to stand up for yourself simply because you are a submissive. And you do not relinquish the right or ability to say no. Ever.
4) all submissives are >insert stereotype<
Submissives are not any of the ridiculous nonsensical things that people insist on associating with the word submissive.
Submissives are not doormats. Not incapable of making decisions. Not lost lonely waifs looking for a home. Not stupid. Not co-dependent. Not ignorant. Not sex starved. Not whores. Not inferior. Not masochists. Not Littles. Not victims. Not disposable. Not weak. Not aimlessly wandering about looking for a place to kneel. Not silent. Not obedient. Not desperate. Not women. Not Barbie dolls. Not flawless. Not broken.
Again - one can be any or all of those things but that’s not what makes one a submissive…
Submissives are just humans. Just ordinary amazing as fuck folks doing that thing they do so well. In a gazillion different and unique ways. From a bajillion different and unique perspectives. Human beings.
All submissives are human beings.
Bloody hell. It’s not rocket science - we’re all just human beings doing our best. Can these fukken stereotypes just be put to rest already, please and verrrry thank you….?
Thank you for reading - please eat your biscuit (or two) and for the love of fuck - have an excellent day!
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