Types Of Relationship Insecurity

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From time to time every one of us feels insecure in our lives and in our relationships. Insecurity can manifest itself in many different forms. Here are some of the top types of relationship insecurity:

· Jealousy. Jealousy is never really about the person that you’re jealous of – it’s about you. Feeling jealous of someone usually means that we aren’t feeling great about ourselves, and we see something in him or her that we feel we are lacking. So if we see another guy or girl as a threat in our relationship it’s usually because we perceive them to have qualities that we don’t have. We become insecure and afraid that our partners would prefer to be with someone who is more like that person. The more secure we are with our relationships, and ourselves the less likely we are to become jealous.

· Clinginess. Being clingy or needy in a relationship is a sign of insecurity. When someone is insecure about their partners feelings they can start to cling and act desperate, afraid that if they take time apart their partner will forget about them or find someone better. Clinginess is a need to be together all the time, for fear of what will happen when you’re apart. If you’re a secure and confident person, you’ll know that you can take time away from your partner and the relationship will actually be better for it.

· Looking for validation. If you constantly need to hear how your partner feels about you, or how they feel about the relationship, it’s a sign of insecurity. If you never feel like you know where you stand, and you always need to be looking for validation in your relationship, then you probably aren’t very secure in that relationship. This can be because of our own feelings of insecurity or low self-esteem, but can also occur if our partner sends mixed signals or doesn’t communicate their feelings.

· Playing games. People play games in relationships when they don’t feel secure or confident. For example, you might not feel confident in their feelings for you so you try to make them jealous. Or you aren’t confident in yourself so you play hard to get in order to come across as being cooler or more popular than you think you are. When you’re a secure person it’s easy to be yourself and not worry about having to play games to get someone to like you.

· Comparing yourself to their exes. There is a reason why your partner and their ex broke up and aren’t together anymore, yet many people still compare themselves to their partners exes. This is a sign of insecurity in the relationship. If you were secure in yourself and your relationships you wouldn’t be comparing yourself to their past partners and worrying about how you measure up.