Jack Off First, THEN Negotiate!

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Master Chuck: The word ‘negotiation’ carries overtones of rational business sense, equals seeking a common goal and a general concern for the welfare of everyone concerned. It is not a word one might associate with an exchange between a prospective slave and potential Master.

In the BDSM community, the word ‘claim’ or ‘collar’ is often associated with the image of a naked man on his knees, head bowed, hands behind his back and a fully clothed man, towering above him in a position of authority. The dialog is usually one-sided with the Master dictating the terms and conditions by which the naked man will serve out his remaining days.

For those actually seeking a Master/slave relationship, I have one suggestion: jack off first, thennegotiate!

Fantasy is fun but reality (if it’s going to last longer than a one-time-thing) requires that the needs, wants and desires of both partners be recognized and fulfilled, at least to some extent.

It’s no secret that the “horniness factor” plays a huge factor in us, both psychologically and physiologically. High sexual arousal can sway the decisions we make and increase our threshold to erotic pain. What seemed like a hot idea prior to an orgasm very often seem less so following one.

Contrary to the beliefs of some, submissives do have a brain and they do not lose that brain when they commit to a Dom. No matter how good an actor, a committed slave will almost always loose his commitment and desire to serve if the original fulfillment and chemistry is no longer there. Dominant-submissive relationships can and do last a lifetime when those involved are living life and not attempting to live a script.

I’ve known slaves who have walked away from jobs, relationships and personal lives to follow their dream, only to have their dream turn into a nightmare. It happens when a potential-slave gives away what he needs to exist. It happens when a potential-Master collars a slave without adequately considering the responsibilities that come with ownership. It happens when the commitment to hold the relationship together is too weak and the ‘let’s-give-it-a-shot’ mentality is too strong.

Go after your dream! Search for the yin to your yang! And when you find each other, jack off and then negotiate. You will increase your chances of finding a truly great partner and a relationship that fulfills initially and long term.