Wheat, Chaff and Reality

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Master Chuck: Not long ago, I read the following in an online profile:

"There are rules and guidelines in the traditional BDSM world that clearly define the role of subs and slaves. The internet has opened up what was a very structured and tight-knit community to the curious. The majority don’t respect or know about the traditions of the BDSM community."

He speaks the truth and, in fact, understates it. What was once a closed society of men and women who embraced the power exchange dynamic and protected their own is now played out in the anonymous arena known as the internet. Titles that were once earned and carried respect and honor are now equivalent to “Hello! My Name Is…” stick-on badges.

Anyone can call himself a ‘slave’ and, perhaps, worse, anyone with a lousy self-image and a tendency to bully others to boost his own self worth can proclaim himself a ‘master’. For the real players on a quest to find themselves and suitable partners, waters that were once murky are now a thick sea of mud that is nearly impossible to navigate.

So, how does one separate the wheat from the chaff - the Masters from the masterbaters?

There is no easy answer but real social networking will always win out. Real people will always trump Internet anonymous. And meeting people is the easy part. The difficult part is finding an honestdialog with someone. In the end, honesty is the critically important ingredient in finding a real and longer-term power exchange partner.

So be honest with yourself and prospective partners, put on your rubber hip boots and start wading through the mud!