The Bliss of Consensual Slavery

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fistfuckgaygr: Blessed is that slave whom his master finds so doing when he comes. Matthew 24:46

What is slavery?

Slavery is about the transfer of sovereignty and authority. It is an agreement one first makes with himself. The inferior realizes that the focus of his life should be directed away from himself and toward someone greater. This realization can ultimately lead to a state of ecstatic bliss which cannot be achieved any other way.

Destiny: We are all drawn to power; it is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Some are drawn to the power within themselves and become the Master. Many others are drawn to the power in another and become the slaves. The Superior Man is possessed of masculinity that approaches its ideal state; where physical strength, confidence, assertiveness, honesty, aggressiveness, willpower, dominance, and virile potency are present in abundance. This is the essence of the Alpha male. It is what makes him supreme among God’s creatures. Humans possess basic primal instincts that steer them toward their natural roles of domination or submission. To surrender to the supremacy of a true Alpha male is a natural act for the inferior. This is why it produces such intense emotional satisfaction; it is operating among the most basic levels of the human psyche. It is a quasi-religious experience, the revelation of one’s true self. Both domination and submission are empowering because it leads towards one’s true calling. To submit totally to another requires strength and will power as it is contrary to what we have been taught our whole lives. It is to yield to one’s true nature, and to find one’s destiny. For the true submissive there is nothing more gratifying.

Crave Serve and Obey

What we find lacking in ourselves; we crave in another. Women are instinctively drawn to real men. Gay males have similar inclinations. Yet to the surprise of many new slaves, even essentially straight men can find themselves drawn in by a man that is a greater exemplar of masculinity than themselves. They too are drawn to one who possesses the masculine traits they lack. One can attempt to suppress this side of his nature in order to conform to societal expectations, or one can find a sense of fulfillment and true happiness by pursuing this important aspect of oneself. 

Training

Slavery is a process. It is a matter of breaking down barriers and overcoming fears. To yield some or all of one’s personal sovereignty to another, to acknowledge another as superior in rank, authority and power requires courage. To enter into a state of subordination where one defers to another’s judgment, power or decision leaves one feeling vulnerable. There is a fear of the destruction of oneself. The slave wonders, “Who will I be if I surrender myself utterly to the master?” What they find as they submit is the liberation of their true selves and as they accept and surrender to their new role, they increasingly find their bliss. Slavery is a transcendent experience.

It’s the Slave’s Job

Slavery is a path of self-discovery. Most Masters understand very little about how erotic slavery is in the slave’s mind. Masters by their very nature are used to getting what they want, when they want it, and not worrying much about the details of how the gratification of their desires is accomplished. Slaves can learn important and useful things about slavery thus from other slaves. Each slave is on an individual voyage of self-discovery, but this process can be enhanced by the application of certain basic principles and tools that will help the slave refine his service.

Guiding Principles:

-Identity: Ideally, a slave is a person who always knows himself to be first and foremost a slave, with all other social roles second to this primary identity. This identity gives a central focus to one’s life much the way that religion (submission or slavery to God) serves such needs. In fact religious observance sometimes acts to compliment the explorations of subordination in some slaves.

-Obedience: The form of servitude you have entered is consensual slavery, and to create and maintain such a state; to accept, embrace and validate this subordination, and charge it with passion requires the surrender to the authority of another. Obedience ideally should become the overarching concern of the slave. It gives purpose, direction, protection and validation. It is the filter through which we judge ourselves to be worthy, good, and true.

-Transparency: The true state to which you have submitted to another is the degree to which you have opened up to reveal your true thoughts, feelings, doubts and hopes with your Master. It is one of the greatest hurdles of fear to overcome. To hide thoughts from the Master is to resist the ultimate ecstasy of surrender. Finally surrendering all secrets gives the slave another bond to his Master.

-Humility: One of the most difficult gifts for the slave to give his Master is the surrender of pride and sense of independent dignity. Lesser Masters seek to diminish such dignity and pride through acts of overt humiliation. However, in more sophisticated Master/slave relationships conceptions of dignity and pride are voluntarily surrendered and replaced with fulfillment through obedience and submission. There is some debate as to whether a slave is truly humble if the servant takes pride in prompt, correct and dutiful service to the Master and substitution of one’s own wants and wishes with that of the Master. Often the Master allows such mild vanity for the purpose of morale and the exploration of greater submission by the slave.

Boundaries: Slaves usually begin their servitude in a limited form. They tend to set all sorts of conditions. These are soft boundaries that will be eroded away over time as the control of the Master deepens. It is a myth to say that one ever enters a state of slavery without limits. There are always hard boundaries that a slave will not cross, however since the Master is wise and won’t cross those lines, it will appear you have entered a state of slavery that will ultimately know no limits and bounds. 

 You will have reached a state of harmonious integration with the Master whereby the fulfillment of his will and the satisfaction of his wants and desires becomes in itself, both a spiritual and erotic pleasure. The fact that the Master is aware of and encourages men and women to pine for him and obsess over him, is not to say that the Master shares or wishes to participate directly in your sexually explicit fantasies or have his thoughts intruded by overt and detailed pronouncements and descriptions of such erotic appetites. More general expressions of one’s ardor will suffice.

Forms of address: The key to a healthy relationship between the Master and slave is deference. A slave must address and refer to his Master with the upmost respect and reverence. A superior can address a slave in any manner he chooses.

Service: A slave provides service to his Master in order to make his life more comfortable and pleasurable. This service can come in many forms. It can be direct such as housekeeping or more commonly indirect, supporting the Master financially or buying him gifts. These are signs and tokens of your submission, and will become more and more pleasurable as your exploration of your submissive side deepens and you embrace your servitude. These are acts of obedience as well as an embrace and exploration one’s servile nature and inner bliss.

Tribute: The offering of goods, services or financial considerations is a demonstration of submission, fealty and adoration. The pleasure derived by the slave through these acts is empowering. At no time should the slave expect the gifts or services he provides to obligate the Master in any way. He can be placated, appeased and lavished with gifts, as you would do any object of your love and obsession. What time and attentions he gives in return are to satisfy his needs as the Dominant (for there can be no domination without slaves). Such contact serves to strengthen the bonds of slavery and control. They are the means by which the slave’s soft boundaries of resistance to a more complete submission are eroded away.

Adoration: The slave gives unconditional love, worship and respect to his Master. The term defines the feeling of desire that a slave feels for his Master, the craving for the Master’s direction, attention and presence. It represents the burning need the slave has for the Master, and the obsession for the particular Master that gives focus to the lives of the slave.