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I agree for the most part, with a couple of modifications:
9. Intensive Use.
Abuse means “to use bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse,” and also, “to treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.” Power Exchange centers on trust, a trust that comes from knowing that the dominant, empowered, partner will use his power wisely, and ultimately to mutual benefit. Spanking and other impact play/punishment are totally OK within this context.
As for 6, I would reword it as “Humility.” There is no degradation in being humble and accepting a subordinate role in a relationship. Techniques that encourage that are fine provided they also build self-esteem around the sub’s role.
Question:
Why do you think some Doms demand no limits? Do you thinks that’s a gateway to actually abuse? How can subs avoid that?
Answer:
The only instance I can think of where “no limits” might have a place is when a power exchange couple has a long history together – I’m talking 20 years – and the trust factor is off the charts and the Dom knows the sub as well as Itzhak Perlman knows his Stradivarius. Otherwise, “no limits” is a stupid request, As you point out, it’s a gateway for abuse and subs can and should exercise their power when the subject of “no limits” comes up –and just say no.
It pains me to quote that shrew Nancy Reagan but all submissives have the right to turn down any request of his Dom and any sub hearing a request for “no limits’ should be run away – quickly and without turning back!
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