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Communication Skills for the Long Term Relationship - Don't store up grievances for each other, ever again. Laundry lists of hurt feelings are what destroy relationships. Build your relationship on honesty and vulnerability.
Polyamory, From the Inside - Our relationship started out open only for me, but I encouraged him around the 1-year mark to go out and try to enjoy meeting and hooking up with men and we’ve been equally open ever since.
Handling Poly Relationships - How my Leather Family succeeds, every single day
Adding to the Leather Family - Building an interconnected Family of Choice.
Cotton Candy D/s vs. Meat-And-Potatoes D/s - When I first started in Domination/submission, it felt like a missing piece of my soul had finally fallen into place. But something else was missing…
Love Is An Act Of The Will ❤ - Love shows up every fucking day, even when it hurts, even if it costs, even if you’re “just not feeling it….”
Get What You Want: Just Ask! - I’ve never understood the “brat” mentality. From the outside looking in, I judge it to be detrimental to the dynamic because it’s based on dishonesty. This is not a “normal” relationship.
The Rewards of a Submissive - What most BDSM sites and blogs present is entertainment, sexual titillation, & at times outright coercion & abuse rather than an exploration of genuine submission and the amazing rewards it can bring to a Dom.
Coping Tips for Long Distance Relationships - Sending a personal item for them to hold or cuddle can be comforting for those times when the distance can be a little overwhelming.
Tips for Healing After a Breakup - I’ll share what I know, what has helped me, and hope that it is helpful to you and many. Some are practical, some are symbolic, but they have all helped me.
Adding to the Leather Family - Building an interconnected Family of Choice.
Cotton Candy D/s vs. Meat-And-Potatoes D/s - When I first started in Domination/submission, it felt like a missing piece of my soul had finally fallen into place. But something else was missing…
Love Is An Act Of The Will ❤ - Love shows up every fucking day, even when it hurts, even if it costs, even if you’re “just not feeling it….”
Get What You Want: Just Ask! - I’ve never understood the “brat” mentality. From the outside looking in, I judge it to be detrimental to the dynamic because it’s based on dishonesty. This is not a “normal” relationship.
The Rewards of a Submissive - What most BDSM sites and blogs present is entertainment, sexual titillation, & at times outright coercion & abuse rather than an exploration of genuine submission and the amazing rewards it can bring to a Dom.
Coping Tips for Long Distance Relationships - Sending a personal item for them to hold or cuddle can be comforting for those times when the distance can be a little overwhelming.
Tips for Healing After a Breakup - I’ll share what I know, what has helped me, and hope that it is helpful to you and many. Some are practical, some are symbolic, but they have all helped me.
Grieving, Part Two: Being Selfish For a While - But… I feel kind of stuck. I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t really want another Sir right now. But I do want the things that a dom could give me.
Trying To Expose The Partner To Kink - Do you have any tips that I could use to tell him what I’m into, without him thinking I’m a freak? (I know that if a man is dismissive to my kinks then he’s probably not a good choice for me, but he’s so dreamy…
Connection With Your Submissive - Intimacy isn’t just the cuddly feelings one sees on an after school special. Intimacy is a matter of connecting with another person while getting them to lower their barriers.
10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s - I’m talking about relationships that involve a full-time power hierarchy, in which the two (or more) people involved always relate to one another from a power-based dynamic.
Finding Your Dominant - How do you find someone, either dominant or submissive with whom to explore the possibilities, without jeopardizing your safety or discretion?
How To Find A Partner - Searching helps to refine one's concept of one's objective. That means that the more you look, the better you will know for what you are looking.
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner - Putting pressure on your partner is the quickest way to scare them off, and that is the last thing you would want to do. Be patient.
Ten Habits of Happy Couples - After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy.
Ten Top Communication Mistakes - If you don’t ask for exactly what you want, then you can’t ever expect to get it. Let them know that you want something specific to change or to happen so they aren’t just guessing.
Ten Types of Emotional Manipulators- One-Upmanship Expert – This person uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms, to show that they’re superior, and know much more than you.
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget - When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.
50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You” - Show it with tenderness in the shower together
Write it in a note they will find while they are at work
Say it while you are drunk (Loud and proud)
How To Survive A Breakup In A BDSM Relationship - People who have survived similar losses can provide support and guidance - and are proof that you too will survive. Stay close to friends and family. Get lots of hugs.
The Heartache of a Breakup: Recovering from a BDSM Relationship Ending - The breakup of a relationship is a difficult time for those involved. It makes it even more painful when the lines of trust are cemented like those in a D/s relationship.
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways - Whether you like to roleplay, or if you spoil them with sweets and spank them when they’re bad, BDSM and D/s is just as healthy a relationship for some as a “vanilla relationship” is for some people.
Factors That Make A Relationship - While no two relationships are the same, they share some common factors that come together to help form a winning combination.
Stop Arguments Before They Start - It’s good to argue from time to time, and it’s not realistic to agree on everything. But many of our arguments can be nipped in the bud if we employ some communication techniques.
The Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship - Even though this is a D/s relationship, the needs and input of a sub are as important to the success as the Dom’s. If there is disappointment then determine if you can redefine some things.
How To Be Present In Your Relationships - Being a distracted partner can be detrimental to your relationship if you’re too focused on either the past or the future instead of the current moment.
Ending a Dom/sub Relationship in a Healthy Way - Because the relationship is based on one person trying to please another, a breakup can seem as though the slave hasn't done a good job. Breakups come from two people growing apart.
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level - This might mean that you’re ready to be exclusive, you want a more serious commitment, you want to move in together, and so on. How do you go about doing it & how do you know if it’s right?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships - The success of our relationships and our happiness in our relationships is largely impacted on our attitudes about them.
Types Of Relationship Insecurity - From time to time every one of us feels insecure in our lives and in our relationships. Insecurity can manifest itself in many different forms.
Finding Love When You Least Expect It - People love to tell single people, “You’ll find love when you’re not looking for it”. While this can grate on your nerves, it’s actually true for many of us.
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests - Of necessity the kink communities and their participants tend to keep a low profile. But they are out there, and are far more numerous and active than you might imagine.
How to Build a Healthy Relationship - You should look for a partner who has great qualities, who shares most of your values, and is trustworthy and kind.
The Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship - 4. Having a relationship that is built on trust, 5. Having, and demonstrating, genuine respect for one another, 6. Sharing common values
What Is Real Love? - I believe that deep down each one of us knows what real love is but, despite that knowledge, along the way we get extremely confused.
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship - If you aren’t feeling fully satisfied in your relationship there’s a lot you can do to ensure that you’re getting what you want and need from your partner.
How To Know When You’ve Found “The One” - What’s the difference between someone you really like, and your soul mate?
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore - Everyone has their own theories on what works and what doesn’t. It’s hard to know what to listen to. For every good piece of advice out there, there is bad advice too.
Searching for a D/s partner? - How does one find a suitable partner? Here are some pointers, do’s and don’ts, warning signs and general help, advice and information on how one can accomplish this.
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better - Nothing is more important than being able to put your full trust in your partner, and it is such a beautiful thing when you can.
Ten Top Communication Mistakes - If you don’t ask for exactly what you want, then you can’t ever expect to get it. Let them know that you want something specific to change or to happen so they aren’t just guessing.
Ten Types of Emotional Manipulators- One-Upmanship Expert – This person uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms, to show that they’re superior, and know much more than you.
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget - When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.
50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You” - Show it with tenderness in the shower together
Write it in a note they will find while they are at work
Say it while you are drunk (Loud and proud)
How To Survive A Breakup In A BDSM Relationship - People who have survived similar losses can provide support and guidance - and are proof that you too will survive. Stay close to friends and family. Get lots of hugs.
The Heartache of a Breakup: Recovering from a BDSM Relationship Ending - The breakup of a relationship is a difficult time for those involved. It makes it even more painful when the lines of trust are cemented like those in a D/s relationship.
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways - Whether you like to roleplay, or if you spoil them with sweets and spank them when they’re bad, BDSM and D/s is just as healthy a relationship for some as a “vanilla relationship” is for some people.
Factors That Make A Relationship - While no two relationships are the same, they share some common factors that come together to help form a winning combination.
Stop Arguments Before They Start - It’s good to argue from time to time, and it’s not realistic to agree on everything. But many of our arguments can be nipped in the bud if we employ some communication techniques.
The Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship - Even though this is a D/s relationship, the needs and input of a sub are as important to the success as the Dom’s. If there is disappointment then determine if you can redefine some things.
How To Be Present In Your Relationships - Being a distracted partner can be detrimental to your relationship if you’re too focused on either the past or the future instead of the current moment.
Ending a Dom/sub Relationship in a Healthy Way - Because the relationship is based on one person trying to please another, a breakup can seem as though the slave hasn't done a good job. Breakups come from two people growing apart.
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level - This might mean that you’re ready to be exclusive, you want a more serious commitment, you want to move in together, and so on. How do you go about doing it & how do you know if it’s right?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships - The success of our relationships and our happiness in our relationships is largely impacted on our attitudes about them.
Types Of Relationship Insecurity - From time to time every one of us feels insecure in our lives and in our relationships. Insecurity can manifest itself in many different forms.
Finding Love When You Least Expect It - People love to tell single people, “You’ll find love when you’re not looking for it”. While this can grate on your nerves, it’s actually true for many of us.
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests - Of necessity the kink communities and their participants tend to keep a low profile. But they are out there, and are far more numerous and active than you might imagine.
How to Build a Healthy Relationship - You should look for a partner who has great qualities, who shares most of your values, and is trustworthy and kind.
The Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship - 4. Having a relationship that is built on trust, 5. Having, and demonstrating, genuine respect for one another, 6. Sharing common values
What Is Real Love? - I believe that deep down each one of us knows what real love is but, despite that knowledge, along the way we get extremely confused.
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship - If you aren’t feeling fully satisfied in your relationship there’s a lot you can do to ensure that you’re getting what you want and need from your partner.
How To Know When You’ve Found “The One” - What’s the difference between someone you really like, and your soul mate?
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore - Everyone has their own theories on what works and what doesn’t. It’s hard to know what to listen to. For every good piece of advice out there, there is bad advice too.
Searching for a D/s partner? - How does one find a suitable partner? Here are some pointers, do’s and don’ts, warning signs and general help, advice and information on how one can accomplish this.
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better - Nothing is more important than being able to put your full trust in your partner, and it is such a beautiful thing when you can.
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