Taking Care of Your Boy

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sir-erik: In the fantasy filled world of Tumblr we often see images and share the idea that power exchange is a one way dynamic between Sir and boy. Or worse even, that power exchange is all about sex. Real power exchange is incredible complex and holistic in nature.

If you wish to be a Sir you must accept the responsibility to take care of your boy, physically and emotionally. To illustrate this I want to share a few of the things I did for Boy Rick (@hyper-pup) this past weekend:

Helped him study for an upcoming exam Friday and Sunday.

Made him breakfast Saturday before he went off to help his family.

Got him some Advil when he had a headache.

Let him take a nap when he was exhausted from studying.

Held him when he needed to be held.

And what did Boy Rick do in return? Quite a bit, but that’s not the point of this post. I took care of him when he needed to be taken care of. That is my responsibility as a Sir, and one I gladly accept for such a wonderful boy.

ukstudentalpha:

It isn’t all one-way. Even things which seem selfish superficially can be so important for a boy.

When my boy is stressed or worried, nothing calms and centers him like Master’s cock. Nothing. To an outsider it looks like he’s doing me a favour, but I’m creating a space where he can be himself and focus on a singular goal.

lowestfagslave:

This is super important. Sometimes, as ukstudentalpha says, the boy needs to be centered and focussed on his MASTER’s cock or body, but a MASTER should also be able to take care of his boy emotionally in other ways. That might mean cuddling after an intense scene, or talking, or laughing, but always paying attention to the boy’s emotional needs. At the end of the day, all the responsible kinky guys I know here want to feel deeply connected with their partners. And that means that both guys’ needs count.

ukstudentalpha:

Perfectly put. Sometimes a good hug is all someone needs to feel better. Or a cup of tea. Or Master’s hands running through their hair. Or their boy’s head on their chest. Sometimes all we need is to sit down with someone and lay quietly, in eachother’s comfort. When it comes to kink, tender moments matter. The extremes of bondage, pain, chastity, financial domination, slavery, sexual service, domestic service… these are only powerful when placed in contrast with tenderness and laughter and friendship. Hot and cold. Light and dark.

bigbulltrainer:

This is a perfect example of the less mentioned side of side of D/s. Looking out for each other, caring deeply for one another.

It is often discussed what a sub, slave, fag ect should do for you, less often the responsibilities of a Dom. One of those responsibilities is giving structure to our subs. It’s part of what draws them to D/s in the first place, a clear purpose and focus in their day to day. I wont pretend that as Doms, we arent getting something out it, I have yet to meet the Dom who grumbles “God my boy sucks my dick TOO good” or “damn it, why is my fag so thoughtful?”. But it is the structure they crave. a place where they can let go, feel safe, be themselves, a place to center in a way they cant typically do outside of the environment we as Doms create for them.

So take care of your boys! Let them know you care!