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mastershumanproperty:
Before slave was a slave, it imagined serving a Master to be very different than it ended up being.
it had always imagined being treated like shit. it had imagined horrible (but always consented to!) treatment. it expected abuse.
This is a bit of a tricky subject to discuss, because BDSM has a bit of a tendency to look like abuse as it is anyway. But in becoming Master’s slave, it cannot say it ever EVER feels like it is being treated like shit.
There are times when Master asks things that are hard for slave. There are times when Master asks slave to serve in ways that are unpleasant for it. There are times when Master asks for submission that is all about His pleasure or amusement, and slave’s opinion of the task isn’t really relevant. There are times where, if you watched slave serve, it’d look pretty close to all those rough, affectionless porn videos.
But slave’s expectations of slavery ended up not being met at all. it is never abused. it is never made to feel worthless. Even as it SAYS it feels worthless, or like a faggot…. that is all coming from headspace. That is all coming from the fact that, in reality, slave feels safe.
slave has been given safety and slave has been given freedom.
slave has fantasies of being humiliated and manhandled. Thrown around a bit. Master has given it a safe environment to explore in. slave can go deep and call itself worthless or imagine itself as various pieces of human furniture… because it is constantly being supported by a Master who is bolstering its sense of self-worth. it is being supported by a Master with a TON of respect for it, who holds a high opinion of it, and voices His belief in it, inside and outside of submissiveness, regularly.
Those moments where its service might look like abuse… where its service might look like slave being treated like shit… Those moments don’t have any chance of reaching slave or doing any damage to it. it is being so thoroughly protected by its Master. For every one act of extreme degradation, there are 5 of affirmation. Hell, even after being asked to go low, it is immediately picked right back up with thorough aftercare…
slave is in a bit of rough patch in life. it’s struggling, and currently has more worries than it has ever had before. But the thought that it is a worthless human being has never crossed its mind once. it is being protected from that feeling. slave’s not doing great in some aspects of its life. But it’s excelling in others. Some things might be bad, but its relationships are great. it has in slavery alone two VERY VERY powerful allies in Master and Sir. Their presence prevents it from even going too low in its day to day life.
This is probably one of the most difficult things to convey to an outsider. But even in the moments that might look the scariest… slave is much better than okay. slave is exploring things that could be unsafe to explore in a different environment… and it’s doing so alongside a man that has earned its trust in the deepest ways. it’s exploring the darker side of its desires with a Master that will prioritize its safety and seeing slave through in one piece above all else… even as His actions facilitate the scene.
So even though slave came into slavery misguided by images of hard use and abuse…. There is a lot that goes on behind the scenes in a long-term M/s relationship.
pdxmaster:
When you start thinking about submission, it can feel like a big dark thing. Think that it will leave you a different person on the other side. You may even think you need to be kidnapped, or forced, or blackmailed, made to do these things. Or you want to do it once really deep and “get it out of your system”.
The truth is, if you find the right guy to submit to it will be a joy to go down that path with them. You might find freedom in submission and giving up (some, or lots of) control. You might feel more like yourself than you ever thought you could be. And, your heart might feel like bursting from finally feeling like one whole person. Yes, you’re different on the other side. But it’s still just you and what you’re becoming with him.
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