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This post is primarily for Dominants but perhaps boys will be interested in learning as well.
Layering is the act of placing an action, word, protocol, or anything else intended to make a submissive move into sub space. Layering is a tool a lot of doms use without even thinking about it. Here’s an easy example: Collar, leash, decorative rope work, having a boy call you Sir, having a boy naked in your presence, making a boy kiss your feet upon entering service, and capitalizing Sir when sending text messages. These are all layers.
Everyone is using them. So why discuss it? Layering just right, combining all different kinds of stimuli creates the experience. It takes a scene from enjoyable to unforgettable.
You want to hear out your boy’s fantasies.
You’ll want to know the right vocabulary for the guy you’re playing with.
You’ll want to consider what else could be done to the environment to enhance the scene.
Consider any special requirements you may have of the boy to get him in the right mindset.
Once you feel you’ve considered every angle of your scene (and i do often just make a list). Look critically at what you’ve pulled together and try to select the top five or top ten items that you want to layer together you feel are most effective. Too many more and a scene can feel a bit busy and the sub may have trouble determining where his attention should be.
This pic is a beautiful example of layering. Layering is when we utilize multiple effects to activate subspace within a boy. Think of layering like flavor added to a dish. When we use layering just right, the experience of sex becomes far richer than: “get hard, insert dick, cum”. And utilization of layering is what will distinguish between a master dominant and a newbie still cutting his teeth. I can see at least four things the dominant is doing simultaneously to activate subspace for this boy.
1) He has his hand on the boy’s head. This kind of touch is directive, relaying authority. It is comforting as well for a submissive to know his dominant is in charge but not overly aggressive about it.
2) The submissive is on all fours. This position brings to mind being fucked and it is a position generally unassumed in our daily life. That works to our favor as we can use the position to engrain the kind of reaction from a boy we want to envoke. I’ve seen boys so engrained with “all fours means play time” that they get hard simply getting on their hands and knees. And what more beautiful sight could we ask from our boys?
3) He’s using his scent to engage a boy’s nose and the salty flavor of a crotch to engage his mouth. Obviously, connection with the cock and balls is one of the easiest layers that everyone learns. The key here is that connection to your cock and balls is something that we use to focus a submissive on a service he is rendering for you. When his mind is focused like this, we like to think that everything else is blocked out, in reality his mind is most open to his environment and other stimulation because our mind is focused on such a simple task and there is room to process more.
4) He’s rubbing the boy’s hole. Rubbing seems simple at first blush but this is something that truly adds to his experience. We aren’t simply massaging the hole at a set pace and firmness. We need to vary the stimulation. Periodically go from a slow deep massage of his fuckhole to a brief but aggressive grabbing of his ass cheeks. It will give him a bit of a thrill and actually draw his attention away from anything else he might be doing for a moment. This variance in how you attend to your rubbing will create unexpected delights and reactions from him when you’re rough occasionally and they will also provide this very pleasant background sensation to his experience when your actions are smooth, pleasant, and unobtrusive.
Layering is the act of placing an action, word, protocol, or anything else intended to make a submissive move into sub space. Layering is a tool a lot of doms use without even thinking about it. Here’s an easy example: Collar, leash, decorative rope work, having a boy call you Sir, having a boy naked in your presence, making a boy kiss your feet upon entering service, and capitalizing Sir when sending text messages. These are all layers.
Everyone is using them. So why discuss it? Layering just right, combining all different kinds of stimuli creates the experience. It takes a scene from enjoyable to unforgettable.
You want to hear out your boy’s fantasies.
You’ll want to know the right vocabulary for the guy you’re playing with.
You’ll want to consider what else could be done to the environment to enhance the scene.
Foreshadow.
Consider any special requirements you may have of the boy to get him in the right mindset.
Once you feel you’ve considered every angle of your scene (and i do often just make a list). Look critically at what you’ve pulled together and try to select the top five or top ten items that you want to layer together you feel are most effective. Too many more and a scene can feel a bit busy and the sub may have trouble determining where his attention should be.
This pic is a beautiful example of layering. Layering is when we utilize multiple effects to activate subspace within a boy. Think of layering like flavor added to a dish. When we use layering just right, the experience of sex becomes far richer than: “get hard, insert dick, cum”. And utilization of layering is what will distinguish between a master dominant and a newbie still cutting his teeth. I can see at least four things the dominant is doing simultaneously to activate subspace for this boy.
1) He has his hand on the boy’s head. This kind of touch is directive, relaying authority. It is comforting as well for a submissive to know his dominant is in charge but not overly aggressive about it.
2) The submissive is on all fours. This position brings to mind being fucked and it is a position generally unassumed in our daily life. That works to our favor as we can use the position to engrain the kind of reaction from a boy we want to envoke. I’ve seen boys so engrained with “all fours means play time” that they get hard simply getting on their hands and knees. And what more beautiful sight could we ask from our boys?
3) He’s using his scent to engage a boy’s nose and the salty flavor of a crotch to engage his mouth. Obviously, connection with the cock and balls is one of the easiest layers that everyone learns. The key here is that connection to your cock and balls is something that we use to focus a submissive on a service he is rendering for you. When his mind is focused like this, we like to think that everything else is blocked out, in reality his mind is most open to his environment and other stimulation because our mind is focused on such a simple task and there is room to process more.
4) He’s rubbing the boy’s hole. Rubbing seems simple at first blush but this is something that truly adds to his experience. We aren’t simply massaging the hole at a set pace and firmness. We need to vary the stimulation. Periodically go from a slow deep massage of his fuckhole to a brief but aggressive grabbing of his ass cheeks. It will give him a bit of a thrill and actually draw his attention away from anything else he might be doing for a moment. This variance in how you attend to your rubbing will create unexpected delights and reactions from him when you’re rough occasionally and they will also provide this very pleasant background sensation to his experience when your actions are smooth, pleasant, and unobtrusive.
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