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This felt like a natural extension to “How to find a Sir” and “What to look for in a Sir”. I’m specifically writing this for boys who seek a relationship with a Sir with whom to have a power exchange relationship, and seek to make the best first impression possible.
Any of this may come across sounding like common sense, but everything I mention below is work you already do then you’re ahead of the pack boy. Even if you do these things in preparation to meet a Sir, it can still act as a checklist to provide peace of mind.
It’s also worth mentioning that you should know what kind of appearance you don’t want to have. There are minor issues like having a shaved ass or a hairy ass that you might not mind doing for someone you serve, but if your look is the boy next door and he wants you to become a mohawk wearing punk… he’s probably not for you. Without further ado…
Grooming
- Beard: Beards should be trimmed to the contours of your face. Beards function to accentuate jaw lines and facial structures. If you’re not quite sure if your beard is a fit for your face, you can ask friends or a barber (not a stylist). A barber could also recommend other styles if you feel like trying something new as well as show you how to care for it.- Clean Shaven: Stay clean shaven, super straight forward. If you can you may want to try to carefully run the razor against the grain. Doing so will make your face truly smooth no matter what direction hands are being run over you. You can in fact shave against the grain but you must do so with care and a light touch because if the skin bunches up you will get cut.
- Body hair: Ask about body hair. If your Sir wants an ass smooth ask if he has a preference between waxed and shaved. I hate shaving because on some men, they’ll grow a 5 o’clock ass shadow and it grates against my dick as I fuck. There are also plenty of guys who want a hairy ass and crotch. If that’s what he wants at least you can save yourself the time of shaving whatever you already have. I would recommend that any body hair be trimmed to be a consistent length or at least look neat. Having a neat, structured appearance shows the effort you went through to look good as well as how seriously you take service and first impressions.
- Scrub and moisturize: I strongly recommend facial scrubbing in the shower for any areas of dry skin. It is also worth using on any areas you expect to be touched. Neck, crotch, ass, and face. Moisturize after the shower as the scrub will dry out your skin a bit. I also recommend this particular brand if you don’t know what scrub to look for.
Presentation
- Pre-lubed or not: If your encounter can or might lead to sex, ask your Sir if you should pre-lube. Note that if there will be a date prior where you’re walking around prior to fucking; it’s not practical as the lube will absorb or otherwise get out of position. If sex is the main event, I’d recommend applying about 30 minutes prior.- Dress sharp: Whether you wear street clothes or a kink uniform, make sure that it fits well where it should but allows for movement. Put your best foot forward. Even if it’s “unnecessary” the confidence it will bring is important to the presentation.
- Details: Throughout all of this, the one thing you want to make sure of is the details of grooming, your outfit, your hair. There are far more details than i could possibly list hear, but i can assure you having seen a submissive who was so meticulous first hand, the effect was nothing less than instant unbridled lust. You will have a Sir’s complete attention if you can perfect your look.
Good luck boys!
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