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I do love my qualifiers and before I’m going to say much more, let’s talk about safety. The only “dangers” inherent in this technique are those related to triggering or upsetting your submissive. So use this technique with someone you know. DO use this technique on men who enjoy humiliation or degradation.
Setup: You’ll need a large (preferably full length) mirror. It needs to be easily visible from wherever you fuck bed, couch, floor, ottoman, kitchen counter (I won’t judge), etc.
Technique: Your objective will be to mentally get your submissive as far into subspace as possible (see the post about layering if you need some help getting there). You want him really caught up in that head space, preferably impaled on your dick (or deep in your hole if you are a dominant bottom). Surprise is the key to making this work, surprise, the truth in your words and getting them agreeing when their psyche is laid bare and vulnerable are what make this so effective.
Once you have him there and you think the moment is right, grab his hair roughly, and jerk his head in the direction of the mirror. Say something like “Look yourself in the eye faggot, look at what you’ve become, what I’ve made you into. Now say you’re mine, body and soul, say you’re mine and look yourself in the eye when you say it so the both of us know you MEAN IT!”
Challenges: The only real challenge comes from finding the right moment when your sub is very deep in subspace, and yet still aware enough to engage you. If you find the right moment where he has a submissive dialogue in his own head and you suddenly synchronize what he’s telling himself with the mirror technique, that’s the ultimate goal and when this experience will be mind blowing. It does take some practice to get right, but it generally it won’t really work too effectively against
Outcomes: The reason I’m even writing about this, was that I’ve had two separate men ejaculate immediately when I did this to them. Subspace, my dick, and the moment overwhelmed them and they came all over the bed. I have also had submissives that were suddenly thrown by the unexpected experience. They stutter and their brain just can’t process properly for a moment or two. That’s not a bad reaction and they should fall in line in a moment or two.
Challenges: The only real challenge comes from finding the right moment when your sub is very deep in subspace, and yet still aware enough to engage you. If you find the right moment where he has a submissive dialogue in his own head and you suddenly synchronize what he’s telling himself with the mirror technique, that’s the ultimate goal and when this experience will be mind blowing. It does take some practice to get right, but it generally it won’t really work too effectively against
Outcomes: The reason I’m even writing about this, was that I’ve had two separate men ejaculate immediately when I did this to them. Subspace, my dick, and the moment overwhelmed them and they came all over the bed. I have also had submissives that were suddenly thrown by the unexpected experience. They stutter and their brain just can’t process properly for a moment or two. That’s not a bad reaction and they should fall in line in a moment or two.
I’ve had other fall in line and completely embrace the experience and spontaneously start engaging in dirty talk (super hot). Although I’ve never had it happen, it could also result in an obvious rejection of the experience. It could also result in someone getting very quiet and unresponsive. Should either happen, stop immediately and engage the submissive to see what’s going on. If you don’t, it could damage your continued ability to play with that boy.
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