The Glass Orb

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Control

n. 1) power to direct or regulate. 2) The condition of being restrained, checked, or controlledvb. to exercise restraining or directing influence over

The following is a random thought I had once while discussing the Dom/sub dynamic with a sub several months ago. It has of course been more thought out since the discussion, and been added to, elaborated upon, etc. but it is something I have come to regard as important.

I always use this example with “newbies” and first-timers, but it is something I discuss with experienced subs as well.

Everyone has a certain amount of control in/over their own lives. Some more than others of course, but we all have a little.

Imagine your control as a Glass Orb. A ball of thin glass, a smooth sphere, crystalline, shining with reflected light. A fragile thing of beauty you cherish.

What does it take to be able to hand your Glass Orb to some one else?

If they are not careful, they may get something on it that dulls it’s shine. The glass becomes foggy, no longer a glorious Orb that catches the light, but some dull thing that sits like any other round smooth rock.

What if they mar the surface? There will forever be a chip in it. No longer is it beautiful and perfect, it would be flawed, and forever be turned to hide the imperfection, no longer admirable from every angle.

If they are flippant about it, bouncing it back and forth, rolling it around with no regard for the precious treasure they hold, perhaps it cracks? Worse than a chip. A crack, you cannot hide. Everyone can see the flaw, no matter how it is turned.

But what if, what if they don't CARE!?
What if they drop it, and it shatters?

Ah, there is the biggest fear.
The broken Orb.

You can never simply repair it. your control, shattered, destroyed. How do you recover from that!?

What does it take to hand over that Orb?

Trust.

“Do you trust Me to hold your Glass Orb? Can you willingly hand it to Me, trustingMe to care for it as my own?”

As a Dom, what does it mean to be handed this sphere of brilliant glass?

It means he trusts you

It means that he is willing to set aside his own desires for yours

It means that he is giving You an opportunity to prove that You are worthy of him

It means that you have earned his sacred gift, even if only for a short time

This is a gift that must be returned at the end of a session.
Some Doms try to keep the Orb, “I’ll just set it over here until you come back”.

This is rarely (if ever) a wise idea.

Taking the Orb from a sub is theft.
Removing the Orb from his possession is theft.Keeping the Orb without his consent is THEFT!

It is given into Your hands to care for while it is Yours, with the knowledge that it is to be returned.
It is a temporary giftIt is NOT Yours to keep

Of course, there are caveats to these rules such as “consensual non-consent” scenarios
But in the general scheme of things, the rules stand.

One of the biggest warnings I give any submissive is this:

“If you start to panic, I am right here, and will do my best to help you calm down. But I will not let you out until you have calmed down.”

I am often told that this is fine, but they are nervous and want to know why.

Again, this comes down to trust.

During the session, I am holding on to the Orb he gave Me. This gift of his control which he placed in My hands, willingly giving Me full control of him.

If he suddenly “steps out” of sub-space, he thinks “what am I doing!?” he cannot get out, he cannot get free. This can be terrifying!

The natural reaction is to try to take back control, to strive and struggle to take back that Orb. To hold it, and think “I’m ok”

However, quite the opposite happens.
If he suddenly tries to take back control, he is bound, he is helpless. The struggle for control only takes the Orb out of My hands, and we all know panic is the opposite of control.

Who has the control now?

No one does.

He has knocked the Orb from My hands and sent it rolling across the room. He cannot pick it up, he’s bound! I cannot pick it up, it is not mine to hold without his permission, and he’ll only knock it out of My hands again.

It is now up to Me to help him calm down. To show him that though bound and helpless, he is safe. To prove Myself in earning his trust by walking him through his fear.

Once he calms down, he realizes he is safe, that I am here for him as much as he is here for Me. He can then grant permission for Me to pick up his Orb again, to hold it and treasure it as I should.
In his eyes, I have earned that right.

When the session is over, and he is released however, I will hand the Orb back.
He takes it home with him.

I am left knowing I had the honor of holding his Orb for a little while. Perhaps he will allow Me to hold it again.

As a Dom/Master, I admire other Doms/Dommes/Masters/Mistresses who have earned the privilege of holding their sub’s Glass Orb permanently.

They proudly display it on the mantle of their home, as they should.

I enjoy seeing those Orbs there, knowing they were freely given, unmarred, uncracked, unbroken. Pristine and shining! Trust earned, submission given.

Doms - NEVER take for granted the gift of the Glass Orb.
It is not a toy, it is a treasure.Know that it must be a gift, freely given, to truly mean something.

subs, never give your orb to someone you don’t think will care for it. you have only one to give.
It may get marred, yes, cracked, tarnished. Those things happen. Mistakes. Sometimes yours, sometimes theirs.But the right Dom will help you polish it until it shines. the nicks and scratches will fade and heal, and you will find your true place.

Is this easy?
Is it simple?

Like anything worth having… NO!!

But subs, take the chance!
Doms, prove yourselves!

And soon, you can enjoy that orb on the mantle together.

There is no greater joy for a Master and slave.

~Master Domonic