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We have talked about how slaves need to be independent even if they are in a committed relationship. Today we look at when they are out there in that snake pit called the dating pool!
It does not take long on any BDSM Master/slave chat site to find someone complaining about potential slaves. They are all begging for help. Many profiles and advertisements contain long lists of “needs” and “wants” and limitations of all kinds. It would appear they are only concerned with themselves.
By the same token, all the potential slaves are complaining that there is a shortage of Masters. Well yes, there are more bottoms than Tops and there are more slaves than Masters. This is not to imply that all Masters are Tops! That is NOT a requirement for Mastership. It just seems like whatever type you are looking for is going to be in a minority whenever you are looking. Neither does it take into account all of the various genders out there.
Please note, slave speaks of male Masters because my Master Indy is very male. Slave does have trouble keeping up with all of the various combinations available today. This limitation is on the part of slave. It does not imply or intend disrespect to any! So please, slave respectfully asks you to translate.
Here is yet another example of how important being independent is for the slave. Everyone has had troubles or problems in the past. You just don’t have to LEAD with them! The old saying that you can travel further with less baggage is so true. Leave the baggage at home.
Some misguided potential slaves think that if they appear vulnerable and needy, then Master’s will be attracted to them. Forget it. That kind of charity happens at the office not in a leather bar. Ever hear “There is no such thing as “mercy sex”?
Lets just think of it this way: which is more attractive to a Master? Someone who is weak and begging. Or some one who is self assured and in control of themselves? Wouldn’t it be more satisfying to a Master to have someone like that be willing, on his own, to agree to submit and be subservient? A strong man who bows his head and is willing to serve is more of an ego boast for a Master. A challenge that is won is more satisfying to achieve than a “freebee”.
Please: all potential slaves out there NOTE: the less you need something, the more likely you are to find it. This is NOT easy stuff here. Slave knows full well how empty a life was when I was not owned. How there was no reason to get out of bed in the morning when I had no one to serve. Slave understands that hollowness of having no Master.
However, no one told you the life was easy. No one guarantees that you will find happiness, or even fairness. Something as wonderful as having a Master to serve takes a bunch of hard work. Yes, a good Master will work you hard for you to become the best you possible. Still to get that wonderful thing, you have to work.
Never look like you need a job on an interview and never look like you will die if you don’t have a Master taking care of you.
Remember, you are there for His pleasure. Your please will come from pleasing Him. Deep inside you already know how much you want to nurture, to care for, to serve. Slave is only pointing out that you will feast as long as you don’t look hungry.
To be a true slave, you must first Master yourself. Become that independent person. A head bows best if it is accustomed to being held up high! Present what you have to offer. Lead with how you are different from all of the twink sycophants out there. Show what you have, not what you have not!
Let slave admit to you, in writing this, I told Master that it is perhaps the
hardest of anything I have had to face and to write. The very thought of having to say a “Good bye” to My Master. Or to face not being owned by Him anymore, petrifies me.
At times, I’m in a gale force wind and Master tells me: “You will be OK, learn to bend with the wind.” Yet I am petrified of letting go. Master always has me face my greatest fears. Slave is strongest when he has trust. Real trust, not some phony word play trust. Life and death type trust.
Slave has that in His Master. I am always at my strongest with that trust.
If the wind lifts me off of my feet, I shall learn to fly.
However today you don’t have to learn to fly. You don’t have to face saying a “Good Bye” to the most important person in your life. No, you just have to want to be independent. Then as an independent slave, the sex will come.
Thank You Sir!
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