What If You're Already Perfect, The Way That You Are?

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Papa Tony:

EVERY boy/submissive/slave that I have opened my heart to, has had issues. I’ve still got plenty of issues myself, after decades of personal growth.  Me and my boys tend to be Misfit Toys together.

Think about it: I’d be astonished if we weren’t all a bit damaged. We’ve all been through the flames, in a world that has not always been particularly welcoming to us. We struggle with:

- Self-image (in a world with porn to compare ourselves to)
- Intimacy (in an age where intimacy has even led to disease and death)
- Acceptance of ourselves (when we don’t easily find supportive, true friends in a world of Scruff, Recon, Growlr etc.)

One of the most powerful things I tell my submissives, as soon as I can say it authentically, is
“I CHOOSE you this way.  I wouldn’t change a thing about you.”

Yes, I suppose that it is the Daddy in me… I know how powerful those words can be, so I don’t throw them around loosely. Part of my job as a Sir is validating my boys and supporting them very actively in whatever they crave as growth and improvement.  I don’t try to force any of them on a path that is inappropriate or stressful… Each man is unique, and that specialness is what I’m supporting.
If we wait for a perfect lover/Master/submissive/friend, we will be waiting forever.  So, let’s actively find reasons to drop the shields together.

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What would you say to a boy who has a big problem with his self image and self worth?

temptingdominance:

I would say, “I don’t expect you to be perfect. I don’t expect you to know exactly what you want from life. I don’t expect you to have it all together. I don’t even expect you to know what you want for dinner. But I expect you to trust me on little point and to remember it. You matter. You may not know or even understand who you matter to, but because you are in this world, you impact someone else. You are important. I don’t want you to worry about the little stuff. I want you to do one thing for me today. I want you to smile. I want you to find one reason to smile. At least one. And tomorrow, I want you to find two. And I want you tell me what they are.”