Going On Prep And Going Condomless

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Anonymous asked :

What is your opinion of going on prep and going condomless?

Hey anon,

That’s quite a question. If I’m being honest though, that’s pretty much exactly what I’ve done.

I think that a greater degree of caution is necessary in undertaking this approach and that if you (like me) have a partner, you really need to discuss the implications should one of you pick up an STD. It’s helpful to have a plan in place well in advance for how to address such things.

I think that STDs really can’t be underestimated. The entire population is hardly riddled with disease, but there are enough out there and some that are even permanent, that you should be wary that PreP will only prevent HIV. If there are any vaccines for STDs that you can locally get access to (HPV comes to mind) it would be good to make sure you’re up to date on those.

I highly recommend being mindful of the sex practices of would be partners. As a top, don’t fuck anyone with a load in them, that’s the very best way to get STDs. Ask about whether the person likes to go out and get tons of loads on a daily basis. Try to make it seem as if you find the prospect of gangbang loads hot so the other person will not feel their answer is being judged. They’re more likely to be honest that way.

If someone wants to use condoms until you’ve met a few times and know each other better? That’s a good person to sleep with. Is the other person someone who meticulously keeps medical records of test dates and has that information ready for others to see. Sleeping with a single person raw as much and as long as you can make it last should be the ideal.

Ultimately? I think that condoms are a safer bet alongside PreP rather than a replacement for condoms. That’s my official recommendation. All of what I’ve written above? It’s acknowledging how many people aren’t choosing to use them in tandem (myself included).

Thanks so much for the question!

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