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Dear Papa/Sir, I am deeply submissive but need to lead and be more assertive at work. How do I maintain authenticity and balance in both?
Papa Tony:
First, be aware that this is a lot more common than you may realize. I wish I could relate the stories of all of the Army drill sergeants, corporate CEO’s, US Marine Division Commanders, Navy Lieutenants and other perfectly capable and dominant men in my life who have also had a strong need to express their submissive sides. It’s called “Putting Life In Balance.”
In the business world, you have a lot of tactical and interpersonal dynamics that you have to deal with. By the end of the day, you need that pendulum to SWING in the other direction. This is quite normal. It takes a conscious shift to get into Bottom Space for a while.
That’s what protocols are for.
I’ve written a separate article that talks about ways of letting go of the outside world, and relaxing into being your deeper, more authentic self for a while. It helps a LOT if you have an understanding Sir, who knows what to do.
Papa Tony:
First, be aware that this is a lot more common than you may realize. I wish I could relate the stories of all of the Army drill sergeants, corporate CEO’s, US Marine Division Commanders, Navy Lieutenants and other perfectly capable and dominant men in my life who have also had a strong need to express their submissive sides. It’s called “Putting Life In Balance.”
In the business world, you have a lot of tactical and interpersonal dynamics that you have to deal with. By the end of the day, you need that pendulum to SWING in the other direction. This is quite normal. It takes a conscious shift to get into Bottom Space for a while.
That’s what protocols are for.
I’ve written a separate article that talks about ways of letting go of the outside world, and relaxing into being your deeper, more authentic self for a while. It helps a LOT if you have an understanding Sir, who knows what to do.
Going Into Service As a Gateway
Having a sacred set of traditions after a hard day can make a positive difference. I can imagine you coming home, stripping down naked, kneeling for the Sir, hearing the collar lock go “click,” taking care of what is needed around the house (feeding pets, preparing dinner, tidying up, and relaxing at the feet of your Sir and giving him a foot rub while watching TV together) can go a long way toward getting you out of one mode and into another.
By the time that you have gone through specific, ritual, after-work routines, you are back where you need to be.
You will notice that I am not saying “Head Into The Dungeon And Get Your Brains Fucked Out.” Sure, it’s a lovely idea, and so therapeutic! However, even Superman needs some time off to wind down. Most folks don’t have wild, raucous party extravaganzas every day.
I’m talking about actual reality, which is what you are asking about. I wish you success in your life!
Having a sacred set of traditions after a hard day can make a positive difference. I can imagine you coming home, stripping down naked, kneeling for the Sir, hearing the collar lock go “click,” taking care of what is needed around the house (feeding pets, preparing dinner, tidying up, and relaxing at the feet of your Sir and giving him a foot rub while watching TV together) can go a long way toward getting you out of one mode and into another.
By the time that you have gone through specific, ritual, after-work routines, you are back where you need to be.
You will notice that I am not saying “Head Into The Dungeon And Get Your Brains Fucked Out.” Sure, it’s a lovely idea, and so therapeutic! However, even Superman needs some time off to wind down. Most folks don’t have wild, raucous party extravaganzas every day.
I’m talking about actual reality, which is what you are asking about. I wish you success in your life!
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