The Path Toward Wisdom

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@realpowerexhange (Master Chuck): If I have a definition of power exchange, it would be two people – one a yin and the other a yang; one naturally dominant and the other naturally submissive. Both are strong in their own way and each recognizes the strength in the other and respects it deeply. It is the ideal union because of the intimacy involved. No other relationship demands the openness of those involved in a power exchange relationship, which is why it can be a dangerous thing for those not good at recognizing an opportunist from the start. On a regular or ongoing basis, the sub submits to the Dom and the Dom is expected to perform his role as the Dominant with confidence and a high degree of skill. The longer the two are one, the tighter the bond of trust between the two becomes. That, I believe, is the essence of a power exchange relationship.

Papa Tony:

The reason why this post is perfect, in and of itself, is because Master Chuck has been spending his entire life learning from his triumphs and his mistakes. He is WISE, particularly in his chosen field of “Soft Skills.” These include coping-mechanisms, useful social skills, and relationship tips, as shown above.

Nobody ever attains perfect wisdom. We tend to die before that happens. That’s okay, because it is the PATH that matters.

When I am starting to teach new Doms, I make inquiries to help me to understand their strengths, and their weaknesses. I ask the following questions, among many others:

• If something big happens in your life (negative or positive), do you stop and try to understand what just happened, or do you just sail onward in your life?

• Do you ask others for their perspective on what happened?

• Do you gravitate toward possible mentors, who can help you to skip a few decades of fumbling around at random?

• Do you actively seek better understanding in all things?

Some folks reading this will say “Well, of COURSE!!!” Please be aware that not everyone feels the same way. We can all think of people in our lives (and in politics) who have no desire to learn another damn thing, because they KNOW that they are entirely perfect already. Others may disagree.

Gaining wisdom as an active plan has many benefits:

• Higher-quality relationships and interpersonal dynamics.

• More successes in all aspects of life.

• Quicker resolution of challenges. There are ALWAYS challenges, but they don’t linger so long and fester.

• You tend to have a happier life, surrounded by people that value you on the highest terms.

I am talking directly to the ones who ponder, who are sensitive, perceptive and kind, like Master Chuck. Others would never have read this far into what I am saying, and have already clicked away to another site:

The path to wisdom is ever upward. There are times for all of us where we stop and wallow around in our Pity Pool. The fact that we can eventually shake that off and keep going, speaks for those of us who want to get better at this thing called life.